Everybody has a story. Thats true. But no question some stories are better than others. Why? Because they are built around great conflict. The bigger the battle, the bigger the story. When it comes to writing stories that will entertain and engage your family you want to seek out stories that provide conflict to the reader. Give your readers a story filled with struggle, and they will want to learn more.
Sometimes, as writers, we struggle to identify this conflict in our ancestors life. On the surface, our ancestor’s life seems boring and mundane. However, if you take a few minutes before you begin to write you might be surprized at what you will find. Once you find a little conflict your job of writing an engaging and entertaining family history just got easier.
Here are some tips on how to help you find the conflict in your ancestor’s life that you can in turn structure your story around.
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Look for Major Change
When human beings go through change, there is generally conflict. That conflict might come in the way of people who dont want to change or refuse to change. Others might change reluctantly and find it very stressful. What kinds of change can we see in our family history research? Look for ancestors who are forced to change jobs, or must leave their country, or are sent away to school or forced into a marriage. Perhaps a woman who has had a father or husband to lean on all her life, only to lose them and must provide for herself and children. Where there is change, there is generally both inner and outer conflict as our ancestors attempt to deal with the change.
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Look for Major Accomplishments
Another excellent method of looking for conflict in an ancestors life is to seek out any significant accomplishments your ancestor had in their life. For example, purchasing land particularly if they were locked in a social status that prevented it. Another example may be acquiring an education, or having children, or building a successful business. Once youve identified the accomplishment look at the obstacles that an ancestor faced in achieving that accomplishment. A woman who wants a family may find herself struggling with finding an appropriate husband and then only to have multiple miscarriages before finally having a child. Few of us achieve great things without having to jump through some hoops and overcome a few obstacles. Shape your story around those challenges on the path to finally acquiring their goal and you have an entertaining family history story.
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Seek out Motivations
Everything we do in our life is generally motivated by something in our past. We may realise it, we may not. We rarely do anything, make any change, or seek out any goal in our life without it being driven by something in our past. For example, if your ancestor emigrated, why? What motivated this emigration? Perhaps it was poverty, maybe it was the fear of war, maybe it was certain conscription into the army. Seek out the motivations behind your ancestors actions, and you will often find a conflict they have grappled with and that has eventually driven the choices in their life. Shape your story around these motivations and your readers will be glued to your story to the very end.
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Look for Actions that Took Place Around or Because of Historical Events
Was your ancestors life affected by local, regional or world events? These events may have presented them with conflict. For instance, did a World War present conflict for an ancestor? Were they a conscientious objector, or perhaps troops marched through their town changing their lives forever? We’re they conscripted? Sometimes conflict is thrust upon our ancestors by outside events they had no control over. Look for how a historical event propelled great conflict into your ancestors life and altered its projection forever.
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Look for ‘What Ifs’
What would have happened if
? If my ancestor had not emigrated? If my ancestor had been conscripted into the army? If we look at our ancestors life from the perspective of a ‘what if’ then it can often show some struggles and conflicts that our ancestors faced in their life. When looking for conflict in our ancestors life, it might be buried in what they managed to avoid. Sometimes I hear family historians say, nothing significant happened in my ancestors life. There is no conflict. It may appear as if there was no conflict because your ancestor managed to avoid being caught up in such struggles. Look at the choices they made and the ‘what ifs.’ What if they hadnt made this decision or taken that option, you might be surprised at what you find. Its not that the conflict didnt exist, your ancestor may have been one step ahead of the conflict.
Take a look at your family history research using the 5 tips above and you might just discover some amazing family history stories waiting to be written.
You have me thinking all the time Lynn. Thanks for another insightful episode.
Thanks Cynthia, I try.
I am challenged by these videos – in an interesting way! The books you referenced are fictional works in which the inciting incidents have been created as part of the fictional story; my family history is a series of real mini-stories from various families which I patch together with fictional elements to glue it all together. Since I’m not trying to create a fictional family history, the inciting incident has to be either true or probably true. I guess the challenge will be to find a mundane event that was real and can be slightly adapted to create an exciting “pop” at the start of the history – the reason that everything changed for my ancestor. I’m trying to process this whole idea!
Hi Pat, when writing true stories, we borrow from the techniques of fictional writers to bring our stories to life on the page. This is at the very nature of what we are writing; creative nonfiction. The creative refers to the fictional writing techniques that we use to write our true stories. However, a fictional writer can just make things up, but as a creative nonfiction writer, we are challenged with the task of looking at the research we have accumulated about our ancestor and finding the story that lies within. We then use story structure to deliver it to the reader in an entertaining and compelling way. The inciting incident is a important element of that story structure. So, yes, you need to look to the life of your ancestor and find the event that propelled him or her on their journey for the story you’ve decided to tell.